Porn – Not Just a Video

NOPORNOVEMBER continues…

So, it’s kind of strange trying to write about porn in my parent’s house. I’m not even on the family computer, but I feel like someone is going to catch me. No one in my family knows about my porn addiction and most don’t even know I want to work with intimacy disorders.

Anyone, we’ve talk about porn, but what is it? Pornography is defined by Encyclopædia Britannica as therepresentation of sexual behaviour in books, pictures, statues, motion pictures, and other media that is intended to cause sexual excitement.” That definition makes whether something is porn a rather subjective matter. But when most people hear the word porn they think of two (or more) people having sex on video.

If we look at the definition of it, it includes more than just video. This is where porn starts getting blurry. The written word. Specifically things labeled erotica and erotic romance. I was looking up the differences earlier and found it all very nuanced. Some articles said there are significant differences others no difference. And there was one article that called that erotic literature “good porn” because it led to an increase in sexual arousal in females, while visual usually leads to a decrease in males.

I don’t think I would cite some poor as good. The reasons I dislike porn involve more than just sexual arousal and desire. What about the unrealistic expectations that it creates. All forms of media can lead people to fantasize about things. But the romantic and sexual ones seem to have more of a significant impact from what I’ve seen.

It’s not just with porn. You see it with fairytales. Society starts at a young age showing prince charming and love at first sight. Then you see people, primarily girls, trying to find that prince. I’m not saying that there’s something wrong with thinking about your future partner and wanting to fall in love. It’s when the thoughts become consuming that it becomes a problem.

So, back to the original topic of post, porn comes in all shapes and sizes. It can trigger different senses. It can have different appeals. It can be visual or allow you to use your imagination to the fullest. While “feminine porn” (i.e. books) is seen as socially acceptable, it’s still porn. But I guess it’s up to you to decide what is and isn’t porn.

One thought on “Porn – Not Just a Video

  1. Cynthia says:

    I suppose it is up to each one of us to decide what is and isn’t porn. But that is why education and information about porn and its effects are so necessary and important. There is a lot of misunderstanding about porn. And worse, sometimes no thought or consideration at all. Just acceptance. So, even if I disagree with someone, it goes back to your last words…… It’s up to you to decide. It is my hope that at the very least it is an informed, conscious decision. Thanks for doing your part.

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