Over the last year or so, I’ve been rather interested in sexual orientation. (I hope to write some post on that, but not today.) Every few months I would spend somewhere between one to two weeks looking at orientations on a particular side of the spectrum. To be more specific, I kept coming back to the asexual spectrum. In doing so, I realized that I was on that spectrum.
That’s not what I want to talk about. I want to talk about the labels. I’ve always labeled myself as heterosexual, the default label. My question is, what is the importance of labels? Our society tends to label everything, especially things related to our intimate relationships.
We label our sexual orientation, romantic orientation, gender, and so much more. Are these labels really needed? Some of the labeling is for stats or so we can find like minded people. The thing is, how does this impact our relationships?
Our labels can become divisive in our relationships. They can cause tension and stress. Society has become so consumed with the labels that we sometimes forget the person. Which is more important?
Love is love and doesn’t need to be labeled. Some people have strong feelings on certain labels and let that blind them to the people wearing that label. It doesn’t matter if you agree with the label people use, but i’s important to remember they are people.
Also, labels don’t explain the entire picture. I’m attempting to write a book where labels are a bit of the focal point. What I want the message to be is that the characters in my story are bigger than ther labels. Our labels help us better understand who we are and to find like-minded people.
I’m passionate about the topic of intimacy and relationships. I want to explore the topics related to that, which includes sexual orientation, romantic orientation, gender identity, and so much more. We all feel and identify differently. I don’t think we can talk about love without mentioning these things.
This is a bit of a ramble, but I’ll put together better discussion pieces later.