Hey Lovelies. I’m writing a little late since I was busy cooking. I’m trying to be healthier all around. I’m also working on my work – home balance, which means that I would have more time to write for you.
I can’t say that I have the best relationship with myself. It’s better than previously but still needs improvement. And I know I’m not alone in this. When people tend to think about relationships they think romantic or familial, maybe friends. But here’s the thing, you can’t have a good healthy relationship with someone else if you have a poor relationship with yourself.
The way you think about yourself tends to impact everything else in your life. If you don’t think you’re worthy of someone’s love it shows. If you think that no one is as awesome as you, it shows. If you think that you’ve done so much wrong and it can’t be forgiven, it shows. It’s not always obvious, but it does influence your relationships. You can hide it some, but not forever.
I suck at the whole believing in myself thing. I know that I’m capable of great things, but I don’t believe it. I can tell you that I’m awesome all day long and act like I believe it, but I don’t. And you know what? That’s okay.
In all relationships you have doubts and worries at some point in time. What matters is how you handle them. Don’t let your self-doubt turn into something more. Don’t let your dislike of some quality about you or something you did turn into self-hate. Don’t consider yourself hopeless.
Each and every one of us is unique. We need to embrace that uniqueness. We need to accept what makes us who we are.
Sorry, I zoned out for a minute. The Facts of Life theme song came into my head and I now have no clue what I was going to say next. “You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life, the facts of life…When the world never seems to be living up to your dreams. Then suddenly you’re finding out the facts of life are all about you…”
Don’t forget to love yourself. Respect yourself. Take care of yourself. You are important. You are fearfully and wonderfully made because all of God’s works are wonderful (Psalm 139:14). While I want all of you to think highly of yourself, I want to remind you to stay humble. Having a big head (figuratively, not literally) can be just as bad, maybe even worse.
So loves, take some time for yourself. But your priorities in place. Work on your self-care. Learn to like yourself. It’s hard. Trust me, I know. But it’s worth it. Hating yourself takes too much energy. Loving yourself can be work when you coming from a place of self-hatred or strong dislike. But when you start to love yourself, it becomes second nature.
There’s no better time to start loving yourself than now. That’s all for tonight, but we’ll talk about loving and respecting yourself more later.